Kaleidoscope

दरवळ.....

2011-06-02T08:35:00.000-07:00

आजचा दिवस संपता संपता काही वेगळेच रंग उधळून गेला......रंग वेगळे...हवा वेगळी...आजूबाजूचा वातावरण ते देखील वेगळं....सगळच कसा धुंद......भरलेला....दिवसाची मरगळ, चिकचिक वाऱ्याने कुठच्या कुठे उडवून लावली.... खिडकीतून येणारा वारा अंगावर घेत असतानाच....जमिनीवर थेंबांचा कोलाज सुरु झाला.....आणि काही क्षणातच अवघा रंग एकाची झाला......स्वतःचा अस्तित्व घेऊन पडलेल्या पावसाच्या प्रत्येक थेंबाला जमिनीने मात्र न्याय दिला.....प्रत्येक थेंब अंगावर झेलत नुसती मोहरून निघाली....
निसर्ग इतकी सगळी उधळण करत असताना...घरात बसून राहणं शक्यच न्हवता....तडक उठले....ती दिरेच्त घराबाहेरच.....मनसोक्त पाऊस अंगावर घेत...झाडांशी गप्पा मारत...पाण्यात खेळत बागडत....१/२ तासाने घरी आले तरी बाहेर निसर्गाची उधळण चालूच होती....स्वछंदी मुक्त हस्ते..... कॉम्पुटर वर जुन्या गाण्यांच्या ओळी आणि वातावरणात मृदगंध दरवळत राहिला......

Moments at traffic signal ...through my lense....

2011-04-21T11:51:00.000-07:00

strange....its absolutely strange........1 december nanatar kahihi na lihinarya mala gelya 2 divasat fakt ani fakt lihavasach vataty.....its amazing...something new......totally wonderful experience......
dur kuthetari ektach firayala jayachay......ekhada dongar, ekhadi nadi, agadich kahi nahi tari....sandhyakali ek chan gaaar varyach jhuluk.....
ata mumbai madhe kuthe mhana asa kahi baghayal milnar..java tithe mansa, gardi awaz, gondhal, kolahal bass....tari pan baher padayachay......traffic asala tari chalel, gardi asli tari harkat nahi pan baher padayacha aahe...sandhyakal chi vel....ekatich road chya bajune chalat nighale....kanat mp3 bt gani njoy nhvte karat....rather lakshach nhvta ganyat....kay chalu hota dokyat kay mahiti....he asa purvi maza fakt khup divas zale ani pustaka nahi vachali tar vhyacha.....khup empty...kahich nahi manat...dokyat....khup mothi pokali.....ka?? nahi mahiti, kasa? nahi mahiti?? kenvha?? kahich mahit nahi....mahiti akrun ghenyachi ichcha pan nahi....fakt ekta rahayachay....nehemichach road, pan kahitari vegla hota aaj mazya dokyat kadachit....hatat camera nhvta pan cell madhe aslelya camera ne ugach vatel te clik karat firat hote.....tyatlech he kahi kshan..ani tyacha mala bhavlela, umaglela artha.....moments at traffic signal ...through my lense....

kuthetari chukar ugavlela ropta, na dhad shenda nd budkha, pan tarihi daulat ubha aahe.....
matichya dhigavar aramat zop kadhnara kutra......kahi chinta nahi.....
ajubajuchi mansa, tyanche te office varun paratana che thaklele chehre, katavleli mana, odhlelel pay......
traffic signal la sandhykalchya veli potachi aag shant karayala petavleli chul...
kontyatari junya khelnyashi tithech bajula khelat baslela mul...
footpath var pathari pasrun zopnyachya tayarit aslele ajoba......

ani dusrya bajula signal cross karun pudhe janyachi vat baghat asleli ek antya yatra.......

saglyachi link lagtye ka kuthe??? aapan he asech asato.....chan dimakhat ubhe rahat asato...saglya chinta sodun gadh zop ghet asato.....nako vatla tari office la jat asato ka tar potachi aag shamavayala.....tyatlya tyat kashat tari anand manat asato, milvat asato, ani shevti pathari pasarun ya chakratun sutnyachi vaat baghat basato.......tya traffic signal var rahnarya kutumba madhe ani aaplya madhe farak itakach asato...tyancha sagala ughadyavar asata....aani aapla 4 bhintit madhe.....te bhatake astat...aapan bandhanat asato....tehi kidukmiduk vyvasay karun ubhe rahat astat, aapan tutpunjya pagarachi nokari karat asto, te footpath var eka sataranji var zoptat, aapan flat madhe aaplya flat madhe chan bed ani ushya gheun zopto...farak kay to paristhiti cha.....farak kay to gadi ani sataranji cha, raymonds shirt ani thiglachya pant cha... shevti jagato tech, tasach, nd tyach karna sathi....paristhiti badalali mhanun aapli kruti nahi badlat....badalate te fakt madhyam (medium)....

Organic बहर

2011-04-21T01:45:00.000-07:00

काल म्हटल्याप्रमाणे दिवसाची सुरवात अगदी मनासारखी झाली....चहाचा कप आणि मातीचा सुगंध...वाह वाह......एका छोट्याश्या प्लास्टिक च्या पिशवीत उगवलेली ती छोटी छोटी झाड....जेमतेम फुटभर असतील तरी त्याला कितीतरी फुल येतात..केवढी छान दिसतात इतकी छोटी झाड फुलांनी भरलेला....झाड घेत होते तेंव्हा त्याला विचारलेला कि काय रे याला फुला साधारण कधी येतात?? काय सिझन आहे फुलांचा???? मला उत्तर मिळाला ताई अहो आजकाल नेहेमीच येतात फुला हायब्रीड केली आहेत ना... नेहेमीच असतात फुला.....कोणताबी झाड उचला...फुला येतील नेहेमी की काळजी नका करू...हा फक्त चांगली आणि भरपूर फुला यायला त्यांना मधून मधून ओर्गानिक टाका म्हणजे मग बघा झाड कसा लयी बेस फुला देतय......मग काय आमची स्वारी खुश...घेऊन आलो..घरी या मोठ्या (???) झाडांचा आगमन झालं.....

आपण पण असेच असतो ना..छोट्याश्या घरात सुरक्षित वातावरणात लिमिटेड मातीत उगवतो...निपजतो...बहरतो(?????) लहान वयात मोठ्या मोठ्या गोष्टी मिळवतो....वयाने लहान पण कितीतरी कमावतो.....एका छोट्याश्या पिशवीत जगतो....त्यात असणाऱ्या मातीतून च फुला येतात...कमी फुला येतात वाटला कि घातला ओर्गानिक...मग काय फुलच फुला.....हे म्हणजे अकाली प्रौढत्व आल्यासारखा नाही वाटत...मुळात त्याला झाड म्हणायचं का हाही एक प्रश्न असतो...झाड म्हणण्यासाठी त्याची ना उंची असते ना विस्तार असतो...पण रोपटं म्हणाव तर भरघोस फुला येत असतात...काय म्हणायचं काय??? च्यायला झाडांमध्ये पण identity crisis ?? झाडाचा बहार हा त्याला मिळणारा हवामान, माती, पाणी या सगळ्यावर अवलंबून असतो ...पण इथे सगळाच मामला प्रोटेक्टेड आणि लिमिटेड....सगळा आखून दिलेला.....लिमिटेड माती, लिमिटेड जागा, वाढ चांगली व्हावी म्हणून कापल्यामुळे लिमिटेड उंची, सगळा कसा आखीव रेखीव...कुठेच स्वतःच वाढणं नाही....जगायला लागणारं सगळच कोणीतरी दुसरा पुरवतोय...घेतोय काळजी...त्या बदल्यात आपण फक्त फुला द्यायची बस...इतकच....मनाप्रमाणे वागायची सवलत नाही...फुला नाही आली तर काही दिवसात झाड बदली तरी होणार, कोणाला देऊन तरी टाकणार किंवा मग कोणी काळजी घेणार नाही.....

या सगळ्यात त्या छोट्या झाडाला कधी कळतच नाही कि मोठा होणं म्हणजे फक्त फुला देणा नाही..तर मोठा होणं म्हणजे जमिनीत रुजणं....असेल तश्या जमिनीतून वर येणं... खोलवर आपली मूळ रोवून घट्ट उभा राहणं .....आणि मग पूर्ण वाढ झाल्यावर फुलायला सुरवात होणं, बहरू लागणं.....जोपर्यंत स्वतःला स्वतःचा जीव जागवता येत नाही तोपर्यंत फुला येतच नाहीत...हा साधा निसर्ग नियम नाही काळात त्या छोट्याश्या झाडाला...कारण कधी ते तसा जगलच नाही....
आपला पण होता असाच....आजकाल मोठ्या मोठ्या पोस्ट्स वर भराभर वर जाणारी आमची पिढी, ८-१० लाख अगदी एका वर्षात कमावणारे आम्ही.....या छोट्या झाडां सारखेच आहोत....सगळ्या लिमिटेड आणि आखीव गोष्टी मिळाल्या...मग लागलो अकाली फुलायला....पण जेव्हा परिस्थीची झळ बसते तेंवा कळून येत कि आपली मुळ मजबूत नाही आहेत...पिशवीच्या पलीकडे खूप गोष्टी आहेत...प्रत्येक वेळी कोणी ओर्गानिक देईल च असा नाहीये..आणि जास्त ओर्गानिक पण आपल्यासाठी चांगला नाही कारण....त्यामुळे आपल्या capacity च्या बाहेर आपल्याला काहीच करता येत नाही...ओर्गानिक फक्त असलेली गोष्ट वाढवू शकत...काही नवीन निर्माण नाही करू शकत...पण आम्हाला कळलच नाही कि आमची capacity काय आहे...कारण आम्ही ते समजायच्या आत च फुलायला पण लागलेलो....
personality grooming च्या नावाखाली होणाऱ्या ओर्गानिक च्या भडिमारात आम्हाला आमची मूळ मजबूत करता येतच नाहीत, आम्हाला नीट रुजातच येत नाही, पूर्ण वाढ होण्याआधीच आम्ही फुलायला लागतो, बहरायला (????) लागतो......

200 रुपयात सामाजिक वनीकरण

2011-04-20T01:57:00.000-07:00

आयुष्यात रिज़ाइन केल्यावर मिळणार सुख हे फक्त बॉस नामक माणसाच्या हातातून सुटका झाली इतकाच मर्यादित नसता तर त्याही पलीकडे बर्‍याच गोष्टी असतात याची नव्याने जाणीव झाली

शाळा-कॉलेज-पोस्ट ग्रॅज्युएशन आणि करियर साठी नोकरी.........सगळ्यांच जे रुटिन तसच माझाही...सकाळची ट्रेन.....गर्दी, धडपड, लोकांची नाटका आणि नखारे...काही म्हणा वेस्टेन च्या लोकांमधे आटिट्यूड जरा जास्तच असतो... त्यातून फर्स्ट क्लास म्हणजे तर.....बाप रे....जणू काही सगळ्यांचा माहेर लंडन आणि सासर पॅरिस असल्यासारखा ईंग्लिश....आणि आपण म्हणजे काचेची बहुली आणि आजूबाजूच्या लोकना आपल्याला धक्का देण्यासाठीच या लोकल मधे पाठवला आहे असा आविर्भाव......जरा धक्का लागला की oppps.....can't you see?? GOD knows from where these people are coming... अशी टिप्पणी सुरू होते......
गेले काही दिवस या सगळ्यातून सुटका झाल्याचा सुख काही खास वाटून जाता...आहाआ सकाळी उठायचा.....छान जिम ला जाऊन यायचा...गरम गरम चहा आणि सुब्ब्लक्शमि ची कॅसेट...वा वा.....दिवसाची सुरवात एकदम सुंदर होऊन जाते.....कोणाची साडी पायात अडकायला नको...कोणाची बॅग नकवर आदलायला नको... :-) सुख सुख म्हणतात ते हेच......

या सरळ सोट (????) 2.5 वर्षयांच्या काळात किती काय काय मिस केला हे.....घरी बसल्यावर जाणवला.....किती दिवसात उगाचच कारण नसताना नुसतच भटकलो नाहीत.....खिशात फक्त 50 च रुपये घेऊन जीवाची मुंबई केली नई.....शॉपिंग मॉल च्या गर्दीत भुट्टा खात कधी कट्ट्यावर बसलो नाही.....नदीत डुंबलो नाही....झाडावर चढलो नाही..मातीत खेळलो नाही......म्हणजे काहीच केला नाही......सगळ्याच गोष्टी हरवल्या की.....अख्खा दिवस कसा संपतो हेच काळात नव्हत....या सगळ्या गोष्टी करण्यात संपणारा दिवस आता ते काहीच न करता संपातोय.....असा काय ते...काहीतरी चुकतय.....इतकाच फक्त काळात होता..कुठे काय कसा लक्षात नव्हत येत......पण आता सगळाच कळलाय.....आणि म्हणून या सगळ्या गोष्टी जमतील तश्या आणि जमतील तेवढ्या करण्याचा प्रयस सुरू केला

आता वर लिहिलेल्या सगळ्याच गोष्टी करून झाल्या असा नाहीत...पण एक नक्की केली....मातीत खेळण....
खूप दिवसात झाडांकडे बघायला जमला नव्हता.....परवा सहज चक्कर मारताना मूड आला झाड घेऊन जाण्याचा...."हे कुठला झाड आहे रे??....साधारण कधी फुला येतात याची?? किती काळ बहर टिकेल?? किती पाणी घालायचा??" हे असले सगळे संवाद गेले काही दिवस चालू आहेत.....आता मुंबई मधे गार्डेनिंग वगैरे करायला बाबा आम्ही काय गरवारे, शर्मा, पटेल बितेल नाही हो... सरड्याची धाव कुंपणापर्यंत तसच जोश्यांच गार्डेनिंग 700 स्क्वे. फूट फ्लॅट च्या गॅलरी पर्यंत.... :-) तरी पण
म्हटला चला "सामाजिक वनीकरण" करूया....आणि चक्क 200 रुपयाची फक्त झाडा च घेऊन आले एकदम8-10 नवीन मेम्बर्स आले आमच्या घरी......किती तरी नवी झाड पहिल्यांदाच पहिली.....किती तरी वेळ त्या झाडं मधे होते...हे घेऊ की ते घेऊ ? कोणता छान दिसेल? कुठे लावता येईल......आणि गेले कित्येक दिवस माज़यच घराकडे कधी नीट आपण पहिलाच नाही याची जाणीव झाली.....मी नव्याने घर बघायला लागले...मस्त नवीन 8-10 झाड घेऊन झाल्यावर बिचारा दुकानदार च म्हणाला...मॅडम बाकीची नंतर घेऊन जा....अजुन व्हरायटी येईल बघा......
घरी आल्यावर ती झाडा लावण्यासाठी म्हणून कुंदीत माती टाकली पाणी घातला आणि अहाआ......मातीचा जो काही सुंदर वास आला....किती तरी वेळ त्या मातीत च खेळात बसले.......वा....आजचा दिवस परत वसूल झाला.... :-)
आमचा दुकानदार म्हणाला तसा....मॅडम घरच्याना सांगा ग्लोबल वाओर्मिन्ग विरुध तुम्ही एकदम मोहिम उघडली आहे.....
त्या ग्लोबल वाओर्मिन्ग ला काही ज़ला असेल नसेल.....माझ्या डोक्यात उठलेल्या तपासाठी ती झाड म्हणजे एकदम रामबाण उपाय ठरली आहेत हे नक्की.......
आता रोज सकाळी सकाळी उठायचा.....मग जिम....सुब्ब्लक्शमि ची कॅसेट... ऐकत झाडांना पाणी घालायचा आणि मातीचा सुगंध घेत घेत गरम गरम चहा वा वा.....दिवस खूप सुंदर आहे.....

Manachiye Gunti..........

2010-12-01T20:41:00.001-08:00

divas khup normal suru asato..office madhe rojachich kama astat...tyach tya files, tech te kagad....toch vajnara phone nd fwd msgs...sagala kasa ekdum suralit?? (thodasa monotonous) chalu asata......kahi chalbichal nai, kahi ghalmel nai kahi kahi nai.....jasa saklachya velcha shant jalashay....thodya far varyachya lahari nd tyasobat panyavar uthnare tarang......

bt tevdhyat kahitari yeun dhapkan padava panyat tyapramane ek msg yeun thadakato...nd talavat asankhya tarang uthtat....khup jordar usali gheto...tasach kahisa zala eka msg ne....."lagin tharala" khara tar kiti anadachi batmi, bt hyach anandaachya batmine akhkha man punha ekda ghusalun nighala.....jakham bharun fakt vran urala asel ashi kalpana karat astana khapali ajun pan oli aslyachi janiv nd dukha hota tas kahisa zala.....

eka msg ne...dakhavun dila ki aaplyala vatat tevdha he man soppa naiye.....tevdha sahaj he kahi visarat nahi kahich ani kadhich....janavala...jya goshti aapan visaralo asa mhanato tya actually fakt kholvar dabun thevlelya astat....jo mukhavata aapan khup "strong" ahot asa dakahavato to eka kshnat galun padato......saglya goshti kal parva ghadlya sarkhya distat..aiku yetat, feel hotat...nd mag thodya velasthi ka hoina punha te sagale kshan jagale jatat.......punha ekda mail box chalun hoto, chat logs vachun hotat, june june thevlele msgs vachun hotat....ani....

va pu cha ek vakya yaveli ajun bochun jata..."aathavani ya mungyanchya varula sarkhya astat..varula kade baghun andaz nai yet yat kiti munga asatil....bt ekda ka mungya baher padayala laglya ki mag tyana thambavana kathin....tasach athvanincha"

man talyat malayat asata..ekda bhutkalatalya sukhad athvanit nd ekda vartamanatalya satya paristhitit......ikadun tikade tikadun ikade....aani aapan yat kahihi karu shakat nai...karan aapala manavar taba ch uralela nasato.......aapalya hatat fakt man jasa firel tasa tyachya magun firat rahayacha itakach asata.....

यार आपली बात च काही खास आहे....

2010-07-31T23:55:00.000-07:00

शाळेपासुनची दोस्ती आपली....त्याची काही खास याद आहे...
लहानपणी केलेल्या प्रत्येक मस्तीत एकमेकांची साथ आहे...
यार आपली बात च काही खास आहे....

तू ती तशी मे ही अशी...तरी जोडी बनली कशी?

सगळ्याचा हा जुना प्रश्न आहे.....
but we only know यार आपली बात च काही खास आहे...

लोकांसाठी 'दोस्ताना" आहे.....we know आपला जुना याराना आहे....
मारलेल्या प्रत्येक मुलाची शप्पथ घेऊन सांगते......
आपली बात च काही खास आहे....यार आपला एक जमाना आहे.....

ते क्षण भिजलेले......

2010-07-31T07:35:00.000-07:00

ते क्षण भिजलेले....
तुझ्या माझ्यातले.....ओल्या चिंब पावसातले
डोळ्यावरून ओघळणारे....ओठानि टिपलेले

ते क्षण भिजलेले....
बेधुन्ध भिजण्याचे...मिठीत शिरण्याचे...
हसता हसता रडण्याचे...अश्रू पावसात लपवण्याचे...

ते क्षण भिजलेले....
कधी नुसतेच खिडकीत बसून राहायचे....कधी हातात हात घालून फिरायचे...
कोसळणार्‍या सरींचे मूक साक्षीदार बनायचे...

ते क्षण भिजलेले....
हळूवार पणे जपलेले....आठवणीच्या राज्यात अलगद उलगडणारे.....
तुला माझ्यात आणि मला तुझ्यात समावणारे.....

ते क्षण भिजलेले....

Second? Chance.......

2010-07-20T20:56:00.000-07:00

It’s another morning..
….. Again I have to go to office.

Ohh, this is me… I shouted having a glance on my snap in today’s news paper.

But what the HELL it is doing in the death column??

Strange…

One sec... Let me think, last night when I was going to bed I had a severe pain in my chest, but I don’t remember anything after that, I think I had a sound sleep.

Its morning now, ohh….. It’s already 10:00 AM, where is my coffee?

I will be late for office and my boss will get a chance to irritate me.

Where is everyone…??? I screamed.

“I think there is a crowed outside my room, let me check.” I said to myself.

So many people….. Not all of them crying…

But why some of them crying…

WHAT IS THIS??? I m laying there on the floor…

“I AM HERE” … I shouted!!! No one listen.

“LOOK I AM NOT DEAD” … I screamed once again!!! No one is interested in me.

They all were looking me on the bed.

I went back to my bed room.

“Am I dead??” I asked myself.

Where is my wife, my children, my mom-DAD, my friends?

I found them in the next room, all of them were crying… still trying to console each other.

My wife was crying… she was really looking sad.

My little kid was not sure what happened, but he was crying just coz his mom was sad.

How can I go without saying my kid that I really love him, I really do care of him. ??

How can I go without saying my wife that she is really most beautiful and most caring wife in this world..??

How can I go without saying my parents that I m … just because of u ??

How can I go without telling my friends that without them perhaps I have done most of the wrong things in my life… thanks for being there always when I need them… and sorry for not being there when they really need me..

I can see a person standing in the corner and trying to hide his tears…

Ohh… he was once my best friend, but a small misunderstanding made us part, and we both have strong enough ego to keep us disconnect.

I went there.. And offered him my hand, “Dear friend… I just want to say sorry for everything, we r still best friend, please forgive me.”

No response from other side, what the hell?? He is still preserving his ego, I am saying sorry… even then!!!

I really don’t care for such people.

But one sec…. it seems he is not able to see me!!!! He did not see my extended hand.

My goodness… AM I REALLY DEAD???

I just sat down near ME; I was also feeling like crying…

“OHH ALMIGHTY!!!! PLEASE JUST GIVE ME FEW MORE DAYS…”

I just wasn’t to make my wife, my parents; my friends realize that how much I love them.

My wife entered in the room, she looks beautiful.

“YOU R BEAUTIFUL” I shouted.

She didn’t hear my words, in fact she never heard these words coz I never said this to her.

“GOD!!!!” I screamed… a little more time plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz..

I cried…

One more chance please… to hug my child, to make my mom smile just once, to feel my dad proud on me at least for a moment, to say sorry to my friends for everything I have not given to them, and thanks for still being in my life….

Then I looked up and cried!!!!

I shouted….

“GOD!!!! ONE MORE CHANCE PLEASE!!!!”
"You shouted in your sleep," said my wife as she gently woke me up. "Did you have a nightmare?"

I was sleeping….

Ohh that was just a dream….

My wife was there… she can hear me…

This is the happiest moment of my life…

I hugged her and whispered…. “U R THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CARING WIFE IN THIS UNIVERSE…. I REALLY LOVE U DEAR”

I can’t understand the reason of the smile on her face with some tears in her eyes, still I m happy….

“THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS SECOND? CHANCE.”

WOMEN RULE!!!!!

2010-06-22T20:49:00.000-07:00

Women. What an extraordinary group of people! We are so good at so many things. If you want to get something done, have a woman do it. We love a challenge. We love showing people we can accomplish so much. We also care deeply about others. We just can't help ourselves. It is part of who we are. We love helping people. We love making a difference. We love laughing and being a part. We love contributing. The bottom line is...WE LOVE LIFE.

We live in a time where people of all backgrounds have a chance to build a great team in business regardless of gender. However, it's not uncommon for women to hit a glass ceiling and never see any blue sky. When I was working as a flight attendant, early in my career, you would think I saw blue sky all the time. What I saw, unfortunately, was a system that was seniority based, not performance based, and I realized my options were limited. I made a decision then and there to become an entrepreneur. In ten short years, at World Financial Group, we have built a great team of thousands around the country using the timeless principles I am going to share with you in this book.

As Peggy Anderson said, "Great women are not considered so because of personal achievements, but for the effect their efforts have had on the lives of countless others. From daring feats of bravery to the understated ways of a compassionate heart, great women possess a common strength of character. Through their passion and persistence, they have advanced womanhood and the world."

I remember early on in my career, I was told by several people, "Don't hire any women. They have too many responsibilities. They have children and husbands and charities, etcetera. They will not be able to put in the time it takes to really make their business work."

I listened to that for a brief time and then I accidentally hired some women. I was ready for all the excuses, but I never heard any. I was also blown away by how much they could get done, and how they were performing better than everyone else in the office. I realized we had a secret weapon. You want your business to grow - HIRE MORE WOMEN!
There have been many "ceilings" in the past pertaining to women. A lot has changed in the last couple of years. Consider these facts based on reports by the U.S. Department of Labor and the Center for Women's Business Research in 2003:

Women-owned businesses are growing at twice the rate of all U.S. firms.

One in every 11 adult women owns a business.

Women entrepreneurs generate nearly $2.3 trillion in revenues to the U.S. economy.

More than 18 million workers are employed by a women business owner.

What does all this mean? WOMEN RULE!

How Your Life Matters

2010-06-15T21:47:00.000-07:00

"Not long ago, I finally told the story of when, at the age of twenty-three, homeless and scared, I was given guidance in a most unusual fashion by an old man named Jones. What the old man told me did nothing less than change my life and my future. He said..."With a little perspective you can live a life of permanent purpose."

When I asked what he meant, the old man answered with a question. "Do you sometimes find yourself unconsciously judging your actions by level of importance?" I frowned a bit, not certain I understood. "For instance, "he continued, "the time you spend with friends is important, but the time you spend with family, is more important. You might rank an hour fishing as very important, thirty minutes visiting a sick friend in the hospital much more important than the fishing, and a sixty second conversation with a convenience store clerk as not very important at all."
I nodded my understanding and he returned to his initial point. "When you know that everything matters -that every move counts as much as any other -you will begin living a life of permanent purpose. A life of permanent purpose will make you a better parent, a better spouse, and a more valuable friend. Your productivity and financial success will soar to new heights while the old days of uncertainty, doubt, and depression fade into the past."
Of course, that conversation with Jones changed me. But even more, it became the guiding force that produced the kind of speaker and author I have become. You see, I understand fully that my very value as an author and speaker must ultimately be judged by the success you achieve. And as I consult with companies or speak to organizations and teams, I am keenly aware that much of my client's (your) ability to succeed beyond imagination depends upon my ability to prove this very concept!
When one lives a life of permanent purpose, sales figures soar, team chemistry thrives, and teenage decisions become wiser and more cautious. And these are just a few examples of what will happen...Simply put, when we understand that every action matters, every result of our actions immediately improves!"

Incidently, my mail box got this mail...nd i was just amazed and astonished....now you will feel whts so gr8 in this mail..its a typical phiolosophical, self help category mail....bt the thing which surprised me is last sunday i attended a workshop called ' Secret beyond the secret' by Dr. Pradeep Pawar.
The workshop was on similar lines....the most important thing which had been disscussed and implemented was 'EFT i.e Emotional Freedom Technique'
we all know that our thoughts and mind has immense power, we have heard whatever you think you are right etc etc. these statements sound good to hear but people like me who are left brain dominant ask for scientific proofs. In this workshop. i got to see that, and i started believing the same. but it doesnot mean that, each and every thought of us is being implemented and transmitted to the universe. the thoughts which we pay attention and back them up with emotional, only those thoughts are being spread in the field.

EFT is based on the electrical systems in our body called the meridians. It is an emotional version of acupuncture except that needles are not used, where the release points are stimulated by tapping with the fingertips. We can think of the meridians like rivers along which the electricity in our body flows. This flow has been called many other names such as, chi, prana, life force, electromagnetic, electrical or just energy. EFT helps in restoring the energy flow to normal and that helps us feel emotionally and physically healthy.
The tapping on the acupuncture points on the meridian system releases the blockages that are created when a person thinks about or becomes involved in an emotionally disturbing circumstance. When this blockage is released, energy flow is restored and the emotions come into balance. When this happens, the person will react to the situation or memory in a rational way.The memory remains but the negative charge is gone.

EFT is based on new discoveries regarding the body's subtle energies. This technique has been described by some as one of the most important breakthroughs in the area of psychology in this century. EFT has been used successfully by physicians, therapists and even psychiatrists all over the world thousands of people benefiting from it.

Hana's Suitcase: A true story

2010-05-17T02:02:00.000-07:00

The story begins with a suitcase--a mysterious bag that arrived at a children's Holocaust education center in Tokyo, Japan in March 2000. Written simply in white paint on the outside were these words: "Hana Brady, May 16, 1931." Added to the inscription was the word waisenkind—German for "orphan."

Children who visited the center began to wonder about this person, Hana Brady. Who was she, and what became of her?

They approached the center's curator, Fumiko Ishioka, with their questions. Hana's Suitcase is Ms. Ishioka's answer. Chapters skip back and forth between Hana's experience as a Holocaust victim, to how the mystery of the suitcase was finally solved. Based on a radio documentary of author Karen Levine, this book is suspenseful, sad, and incredible in its untangling of a mystery that took Fumiko from North America to Europe, and spanned over seven decades.

Besides the amazing story of discovery, Levine's work also offers readers an opportunity to "meet" a young person not unlike themselves, who once lived happily in her own little world in Czechoslovakia before the Nazis turned it upside down. It's a call to appreciate the fragility of life, and to cling to those things--and people--we hold dear.

आपण सारे कर्ण

2010-05-08T01:26:00.000-07:00

कर्ण.........
कोणत्या तरी मराठी वाहिनी वर मृत्युंजय सुरू होणार याची जाहिरात पहिली....आणि मन खूप वर्ष मागे गेल.....
मृत्युंजय या कादांबरीने माझी वाचनाची आवड च बदलून टाकली....खरा म्हणजे ही कादांबरी हातात घेतली ते फक्त सगलयानी सांगितला की खूप छान आहे वाचली पाहिजे म्हणून.....महाभारत किंवा कर्ण याबद्दल विशेष काही जाणून घ्यावा असा कधी वाटला नाही
पण मृत्युंजय हातात घेतला आणि मी कर्णाच्या प्रेमात च पडले........अख्ख्या महाभारतात जर कोणता पात्र मनापासून आवडल असेल आणि पटल असेल तर ते कर्ण आहे.....

मध्यंतरी व.पु.काळे यांच 'आपण सारे अर्जुन' वाचनात आल......त्यामधे त्यानी अतिशय उत्तम रित्या दाखवून दिला आहे की हे जीवन कसा कुरुक्षेत्र आहे आणि आपण कसे अर्जुना सारखे हतबल असतो....
पण ते वाचताना सुद्धा मला एक गोष्ट सारखी जाणवत होती आणि ती म्हणजे आपण सारे कर्ण जास्त असतो.....
एक मानस शास्त्रज्ञ म्हणून काम करताना आणि आजच्या तरुण पिढी सोबत वावरताना मला सगळे अर्जुन कमी आणि कर्ण जास्त वाटतात...

त्यातलाच एक हे विचारांच चित्रण.....मी एका मुलाला मृत्युंजय कस वाटला हे विचारात होते....त्याला सांगण्याचा प्रयत्न करत होते की कर्ण कसा कठीण आयुष्या जगला वगैरे.....
आजची मुल कसा आणि किती खोल विचार करतात याचा हे चित्रण......त्यांच्या मनात किती खळबळ असते त्याचा हा नमूना

कर्ण हा सूत पुत्र म्हणून त्याला बर्‍याच गोष्टीन पासून वंचित राहावा लागल...आज आपल्याकडे पण "आरक्षण" या नावाखाली बर्‍याच जणांना चांगल्या संधींपासून वंचित राहावा लागता.....अर्जुन राजकुमार होता म्हणून त्याला सहजा सहजी सगळ्या विद्या, अस्त्र ज्ञान, गुरू जणांचा आदर लाभला, पण कर्ण...त्याला या सगळ्या गोष्टी सतत संघर्ष करून आणि झगडून च मिळवावया लागल्या.....आजची तरुण पिढी ची तरी काय वेगळी अवस्था आहे? कष्ट करून मारुन मारुन 90%-92% मिळवायाचे....आणि अड्मिशन घ्यायचा वेळी बघायला काय मिळणार? ओपन लिस्ट क्लोज़....एका एका पॉइण्ट ने अड्मिशन गेली पण रिज़र्वेशन लिस्ट मात्र 50-60% सुद्धा अड्मिशन चालू......
तीच कथा नोकरी मधे...आंगच्या गुणानपेक्षा कोण साहेबा च्या मर्जितला त्याला जास्त संधी.......जसा अर्जुनाला श्री कृष्ण........

मग आम्ही फ्रास्ट्रेट नाही होणार? का नाही कोणत्या दुर्योधनाची साथ देण्याचा विचार करणार......दुसर्या कोणाच्या स्वार्ता साठी का होईना आम्हाला जर आमचे गुण दाखवण्याची संधी मिळाली तर का नाही आम्ही ती घ्यायची...
असा प्रश्न उभा राहणार च ना???
आजच्या आम्हा तरुणांमधे आणि कर्ण यात आजुन एक साम्य म्हणजे आमची कामाला वाहून घेण्याची वृत्ती, एखादी गोष्ट मिळवण्याचा ध्यास आणि त्यासाठी कितीही कष्ट करण्याची तयारी......कर्ण परशूरामकडे शिकला.....एक चुक आणि त्याला शाप मिळला.....
तसाच काहीसा होता आमच पण.....सगळ नीट असत एक च चुक होते आणि होत्याच न्हव्ता होऊन बसता......
कर्ण हा Misguided होता....आमचा पण तसाच काहीसा आहे......आम्ही पण चांगले आहोत खूप चांगले आहोत पण 1-2 चुकांमुळे आम्ही भरकटलेले आहोत.......आम्हाला कोणी कृष्ण भेटेल? जो कोणत्या अर्जुनसाठी आमचा वध नाही करणार......

Situational Leadership

2010-05-03T21:40:00.000-07:00

“He is happy whose circumstances suit his temper but he is more excellent who can suit his temper to any circumstances”-David Hume

For years, when people talked about leadership style, they talked in terms of two extremes – an autocratic (directive) and a democratic (supportive) style. Autocratic leaders used position power and their authority to get results while democratic leaders used personal resources (power) and involved others in participative problem-solving and decision-making.

But then onwards the mode of business, culture exchange, communication, and development changed the corporate world. The modern business is delivering time and mission critical solution in faster pace. People from different background, culture & nature are engaged together in a single platform of solution. The rate of risks, criticalities are higher, which require a change in the style of handling the situation, adopt change and satisfy the need from parent organization to client organization. Also, experience and further research, however, showed that leadership style tend to vary considerably from situation to situation.
And, that’s where leadership style, and leadership model that presumes that different leadership styles are better in different situations, and that leaders must be flexible enough to adapt their style to the situation they are in. it can be said that it is the relationship between a leader's style and his or her environment to influence the performance of subordinates and empower team with energy and positive mindset.

I just loved this.....

2010-04-30T00:03:00.000-07:00

George Bernard Shaw said, "People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, they make them."
Well, it's pretty apparent, isn't it? And every person who discovered this believed (for a while) that he was the first one to work it out. We become what we think about.
Conversely, the person who has no goal, who doesn't know where he's going, and whose thoughts must therefore be thoughts of confusion, anxiety and worry - his life becomes one of frustration, fear, anxiety and worry. And if he thinks about nothing... he becomes nothing.
How does it work? Why do we become what we think about? Well, I'll tell you how it works, as far as we know. To do this, I want to tell you about a situation that parallels the human mind.
Suppose a farmer has some land, and it's good, fertile land. The land gives the farmer a choice; he may plant in that land whatever he chooses. The land doesn't care. It's up to the farmer to make the decision.
We're comparing the human mind with the land because the mind, like the land, doesn't care what you plant in it. It will return what you plant, but it doesn't care what you plant.
Now, let's say that the farmer has two seeds in his hand- one is a seed of corn, the other is nightshade, a deadly poison. He digs two little holes in the earth and he plants both seeds-one corn, the other nightshade. He covers up the holes, waters and takes care of the land...and what will happen? Invariably, the land will return what was planted.

As it's written in the Bible, "As ye sow, so shall ye reap."
Remember the land doesn't care. It will return poison in just as wonderful abundance as it will corn. So up come the two plants - one corn, one poison.
The human mind is far more fertile, far more incredible and mysterious than the land, but it works the same way. It doesn't care what we plant...success...or failure. A concrete, worthwhile goal...or confusion, misunderstanding, fear, anxiety and so on. But what we plant it must return to us.
You see, the human mind is the last great unexplored continent on earth. It contains riches beyond our wildest dreams. It will return anything we want to plant.

दिसामाजी लिहावे काही

2010-02-08T03:08:00.000-08:00

दिसामाजी लिहावे काही...या विचाराने केलेला हा लेखन प्रपंच....काहीतरी घडेल मग आपण लिहु...इतर ब्लॉग्स वाचल्यावर कळ्ल की कोणत्याही गोष्टीवर काहीही लिहिता येऊ शकता फक्त लिहिता यायला हॅव...व्यक्त होण आणि व्यक्त कारण महत्वाच.....आजचीच गोष्ट...मैत्रिणी ने ओफिस मधून रिझाइन केला.....आता यावर मला तरी काही फारसा लिहिता येत नाहीए....

फक्त एक हूरहूर की अरे काहीच दिवसनी ही आपल्यासोबत नसणार, बर्‍याच गोष्टी मिस करणार,गप्पा,खाण, गॉसिप :-) बराच काही....आम्ही सायकॉलॉजी ची उत्तर लिहिताना एक पेटट वाक्य लिहायचो...Man is a Social Animal.....त्यचीच आठवण झाली....एखाद्याची केवढी सवय होऊन जाते आपल्याला....आता काही दिवस तरी मॅडम असतील नंतर चा बघू.....आणि हो या गोष्टीवर मला इतकाच लिहिता येतय......नॉट बॅड...7 वाक्य....याची पण होईल सवय हळु हळु......:-)

nave khadya....

2010-02-04T22:17:00.000-08:00

baryach divasani blog var log in kelay....khup kahi dokyat sachlyashivay te kagadavar utaratch nai....aaj suddha kahisa asach....barech divas kahitari karayachay karayachay itakach vatatay..pan kay he nai mahiti...roz roz ch tech te reoutine, tich ti mansa sagala ekdum typical set non-changing.....kahi creative,innovative kahich nai....
ya dokyatlya gondhalach shevt zala to Mr. Shree Thanedar yancha "he tar shree chi ichcha" ya pustakane....ek atishay sundar atmacharitra....khup sadhya ani sopya shabdat lihilela....ugach mothi visheshana nait, badhejav pana nai..je ani jasa ghadla te tasachya tasa kagadavar utarala....jeevan khara asalyacha janvat hota.....
pustak sampala ani janavala aapla doka ( je baryachda firlela asata) te shant zalay.....je aapan shodhat hoto te milalay......ek freshness, ek navin vichar ani ek navin umed......

एका तळ्यात होती, बदके पिले सुरेख

2009-09-18T04:10:00.001-07:00

एका तळ्यात होती, बदके पिले सुरेख
होते कुरुप वेडे, पिल्लू तयात एक

कोणी न त्यास घेई, खेळावयास संगे
सर्वाहूनी निराळे ते वेगळे तरंगे
दावूनि बोट त्याला, म्हणती हसून लोक
आहे कुरुप वेडे, पिल्लू तयात एक

पिल्लास दुःख भारी, भोळे रडे स्वतःशी
भावंड ना विचारी, सांगेल ते कुणाशी ?
जे ते तयास टोची, दावी उगाच धाक
आहे कुरुप वेडे, पिल्लू तयात एक

एके दिनी परंतू, पिल्लास त्या कळाले
भय वेड पार त्याचे, वार्‍यासवे पळाले
पाण्यात पाहताना, चोरुनिया क्षणैक
त्याचेच त्या कळाले, तो राजहंस एक

some days bak....jus read this poem some days back......the moment it was read, the thought come to mind is this can be used for building POSITIVE ATTITUDE
every one has some unique thing hidden in him,what one needs is the realization of that unique thing.....the moment you realize it...you just transform...(I knw the typical trainer talk started)

but the thing which is still in mind is...what must be happencing to that swan till the time he realizes what he is.....what pain and grief he must going through....it becomes a vicious circle...no confidence-no courage to justify onself-no respect and again leading to no confidence. it is a very symbolical to our whole life cycle.....there are many people amongst us who don't belong to that perticualr SCHOLAR category during their school or college days.....during tht period some suffer the way this swan suffered.....TYPICAL DUMB category....it is so very hurting situation..that otherrs are making fun of you jus because you dunt know what they know....you are not smart as they are....during this period what one will do? what and how he will say anything to others.....but the moment they get their own field...they start shining and there nobody can hold them back....but this happens only to those who realize their UNIQUE thing.....

what must be leading to reach tht point?? how the realization takes place? which is tht moment tht clicks and transforms the individual?????

From Catterpiller to Butterfly.....

2009-02-08T03:34:00.000-08:00

Here i am sitting in my office @ night… Thinking hard about life

एक असता सुरवांत.......तूतीची पान खऊन खऊन एक दिवस ते शिरत कोषात......योग्या वेळ आल्यावर कोषातून बाहेर येता आआणी एक सुंदर फुलपाखरू म्हणून नवीन रूपात बागडु लागताकधी या झाडावर...कधी त्या झाडावर.....त्याला सगळा मिळता, छान छान फूल, वेगवेगळी झाड, पान ते नाही टिकत कुठल्या एकाच झाडावर....नेहेमी इथून तिथे...तिथून दुसरीकडे असा सारखा चालू.....आपण पान असेच असतो नाही? college मधे असतो तोपर्यंत आपल्याच कोषात, आपल्याच मस्तीत, एकाच एक झाडावर मस्त असतो...पान जसजस आपल्याला बाहेच्या जगाची ओळख होते, corporate लाइफ चा वेगळा रांग खुनावू लागतो तेव्हा नको असताना सुद्धा आपण कोश फोडून बाहेच्या जगात स्वत:चा रांग घेऊन उडायल लागतो आणि मग सुरू होतो अखंड भटकंती.....कधी हे झाड....दुसरी कंपनी चांगले पर्क्स देत्ये.....मग ते झाड.....हे असाच चालू राहता आणि मग सहज लक्ष जाता अश्याच एका तूतीच्या झाडावर आणि दुसर्या सुरवंटावर......हेवा वाटतो....किती छान एक जागी....स्व:तच्या कोषात मस्त रममाण व्हयाचा....आपण पान जातो आपल्य जुन्या आठवणीत काही क्षण....आणि तेवढ्यात मोबाइल वाजतो आणि इंटरव्यू साठी CALL असतो...की आपण पुन्हा उदयाला मोकळे होतो......

Marathi Blog Vishwa

2009-02-05T02:27:00.001-08:00

A first step

2008-11-05T02:38:00.000-08:00

Our team has been busy, busy as usual - but one of us has been especially busy. Sia, our 11-month old, has been really focusing on her walking! She will be 1 in a few weeks (where has the last year gone?) and she decided about 6 weeks ago that walking looked like something she wanted to figure out! This is my 4th walker and so I've not been rushing her, but I have been intently watching the process.
She's wobbly. She falls a lot. She sometimes needs a hand to hold, sometimes just a pinkie or finger for confidence. She prefers to walk towards someone who is reaching out their arms for her. She's bumped and scraped from obstacles. When she hits her head (or any other body part) it doesn't seem to hurt as much as normal because she's so focused on her destination. But, most importantly, she keeps getting up and trying again.
Things I've noticed about those of us around her. We clap when she takes steps (even if it's just one or two). We reach out to help her up when she topples. We praise her and cheer for her (yes, even if she falls flat). We hold our arms out for her so she knows where she can fall safely. We tell everyone about her successes. We dwell on the steps, not the tumbles. And most importantly, we encourage her to get up and try again.
Not ONCE have I heard anyone say, "well, you've fallen - this walking stuff might not be for you. You should stick to crawling."
"I know someone that tried that and still can't walk, just save yourself the trouble."
"Wow, that sure is taking you a long time to figure out. Your sister walked a lot faster than you did."
"You know you're not supposed to walk yet. This is too early. Sit back down and let us carry you for awhile."
"Why would you want to bother with that when you're already so good at crawling?"
"Don't, Don't, Don't - you know you always fall when you do that!"

Interesting, isn't it?? There are SO MANY parallels in this lesson that I hardly know where to begin! do we finad such encouragement around us???? our family? our friends? or even at our job????
everywhere you tary to do new things, try to set up new procedured, new rule.....or newthig that is new....how far n how quickly we get encouraged????
with every attempt when we fall...we get to listen "see...i had told you!!!!!", "this is our experience.....bt no you dunt want to listen us"

do we really encourage others around us like this, do we really try to see the world from theirs perspective???? how many times we really allow to be them the way they are......
how many times we show the Unconditional Acceptence...total trust and a belief that yessss there is sumbudy fr me reaching out their arms and cheering me with my every move towards them.......

बुध्दीबळ

2008-11-05T02:16:00.000-08:00

जॉब म्हटला की अधिकार आणि कर्तवया आलिच.....जेव्ध जास्ता अधिकार तेवढी जास्ता कर्तव्य....्ए तर रूढ समीकरण अहे...पन आज काळ आजुन एक गोष्टा मोठा फरक करते ती म्हनजे.....VआY..आघे, ड्यू तो प्रोफेशनल कोर्सस फार लहान वयात हातात मोठ्या जागा येतात न अधिकार येतात, क.Cलेज मधली थियरी प्रॅक्टिकल मधे अप्लाइ करायची ईडेआळ स्वप्ना असतात, डोळ्यावर कै निरालाच चस्मा असतो..... सुरवाअट चांगाली होते....खुप काम करायची इच्छा असते, त्याचा मोबदला म्हणून पैसे नई बीटी कौतुकाचे 4 शब्द हवे अस्तत.....ऽनि तिथे सुरू होतो एक जीवघेणा प्रकर.....ॅअल्लेद अस 'CओRPओRआटे PओळीटीCश' नवीन पयाडी, जुना पत..ंउर्लेले वजीर आणि त्याना असलेली राजा ला नाचवण्यहसी हौस....... यात बिचारी पयाडी कधी दुसर्‍याच्या वजीरासमोर येऊन उभी ताकतात हे त्यांचा त्याना काळात नई...... पयडिनी विचार करायचाच नसतो......त्यनि फक्त मारायचा वा मरयच.....प्यदि, वजीर सगळा firavnara कोणी तिसरच असतो......ं तो कोण हे कधीच काळात नै.....य सगळ्या प्यडना हलवणारा माणूस कोट्या का लायकी चा असेन.......तो फिरवत असतो न पयाडी फिरत अस्तत....दुसर काही करूच शकत नैत...करन त्याना शेवटी पाटावर राहणा महत्वाचा असत...ंअनत कुठेतरी जिद्द asate...vajirachya जागेवर पोहोच्न्यचि.....पन हाय रे त्याना काय माहिती असता शेवटी वजीर पण कोणाच्या तरी हातातले पयाडेच आहे....फक्त नाव वेगळा, थोडे फार अधिकार कमी जास्ता पण शेवटी ते सुद्धा एक प्रकारच प्यदच.......ं त्याना firavnara सुद्धा एक बिनलायकी चा मनुस...ज्यल फक्त काही वेळसाठी विरंगुळा हवा असतो....तो पॅट उघ्दतो.....कलि-पांढरी लुटूपुतिच्छी लढाई लावून देतो......प्यदि लढतात ती लढाई खरी सम्जुन..ऽनि माधेच कंटाळा आल्यासारखा पॅट बंद करून तो माणूस निघून जतो.....त्यच्यसथि पॅट बंद ज़ॅलेला अस्तो...पन त्या पयाडांचा काय???? जी या पटला आपला सर्वस्वा मन्तत......त्यनि घेतलेल्या प्रयत्नांचा काय? त्याच्या जिद्दीचा काय? त्याच्या स्वप्नांचा काय???? हा विचार फक्त पयाडी च कर्तत....पन ती हे विसरलेली असतात की त्याना VईछाR खाRआYछा आडःईखाR णाशाटो......ऽसतो तो फक्त कोणीतरी मांडलेला पॅट आणि त्यावर त्याना firavnara बिनलायकीचा माणूस....... बुद्धिबलाच्या खेळातून कधी असाही काही शिकायला मिळेल असा वाटला न्हव्ता.......

Emotions..........

2008-09-28T06:53:00.000-07:00

once again after a loooooooooooooooooooong commercial break m back on my blog........

lott many things hapend,lott yet to happen.....but one thread is common throughout all these HAPPENING THINGS n thts EMOTIONS.........(my psychology is playing role now)

being a pustaki kida (nt abhyasu haan) i read relatively lott books n coincidently the books which have beend read recently all belong to a similar category n thts THE POWER OF ME or SELF EMPOWERMENT..... books like Secret, Unlimited Power etc... but one book that interest me lott is Emotional Welness by OSHO...( i knw OSHO sounds very very spiritual........) but ultimately the emotions, attitude, personality, point of view....all r name of one common thing n tht thing lies with in oneself........every books startes n ends with a notion that WETHER YOU SAY YOU CAN DO IT OR SAY YOU CAN'T DO IT, YOU ARE ALWAYS RIGHT....

Emotions.....the most imp thing of life.....this is the only thing that makes Human Beings different from other animals... generally in the field of pyshology this topic has been disscussed many a times with diferent pespective n angles...but i found some new definition of emotion in this book...below is the part of the whole...

Emotions can't be permenant.That's why they are called "EMOTIONS"-the word comes from "motion", movement. They move; hence they are emotions. From one to another you continually change.this moment you are sad, this moment you are angry, this moment you are happy. And this goes on.This can't be your nature, because behind all these changes something is needled like a thread that holds all of them together.

Personality Analysis by Intelligent Mental

2008-06-11T22:50:00.000-07:00

hey.............again after a looooong time kida for writing the blog bite me.....
i jus get bore of publishing my thoughts in writing ( haan abhi if i get ne writer then...it will b a different matter ;-) i would hav published volumes of my gr8 gyan and wuld hav enlightened people :O)newyas rt now thts nt a purpose of this post so...cuming to the point. Finally after spending 7 yrs in d field like psychology now i am a PROFESSIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST (sounds sumthing gr88 na!!! its just i am throuh with my MA exams)
now during these yrs specially during post grad yrs one thing i was constantly being asked by common man and that was Personality.Humans are so obsessed and curious about themselves in order to know WHO AM I? HOW AM I? ( the ancient question ko aham? the root of the existence or living on this planet)

who will be better than us (psychologists) to answer this question? Psychology is a Science of Bewhaviour....and the major part, that influences one's behaviour is PRESONALITY (or its other way round???? ;-)
with different theories, tests we defined and categorised personality in different types, traits and so on.......its all theoratical but in practical or in daily life consciously or unconsciously we do categorise people in different types aren't we? without the bases of theories, researches we come to the conclusion about how an individual is. and most of the time we stick like glue 2 our conception.

its my personal experience that whatever understanding i hav about my friends is generally different form what others think about them as they are so on the demand of some of my friends here are some analysis or my observation about them for HOW THEY ARE.....

my social circle is wide..it consists of kid of 5 yrs till the 60 yr old uncle.......these are the people i came across from time to time during my major life events.....one of them is Vaidehi....

a gal from my Reliance Summer Trainee Group...very innocent and at times little dumb....in our group she is a full time target of our pranks, all time favourite member to pull the leg...for others she is childish, really dunt understand the 'REAL MEANINGS' of anybody's sayings, immatured, hardly gets angry and most IMPORTANTLY a RELIABLE STRESS BUSTER or a PUNCH BAG...u r angry go to her, talk wid her or even go n yell at her remove your frustration..she is there always...its like konihi yave tapli marun jave......
people ask to change her this way...."plz improve vaidehi".....
but all these opinions are different than what i understand about her
point no 1- m fully agree with d fact that she is childish...her childishness reflects form her bahaviour...but tell me frankly aren't we like her that behaviour...isn't it her that behaviour makes us to enjoy her company? she knows it and thus behaves tht way cz 'SHE LIKES TO DO THINGS THAT MAKES OTHERS HAPPY IF ITS NOT REALLY COSTING MUCH'and typically in her language 'IF ITS NOT A BIG DEAL'

similarly, other point is about her IMMATURITY- hi mulgi kadhi mothi honar????? every budy asks this question...but i think she is highly matured.....and the maturity reflects in her decisions...is it necessary to WEAR A MASK OF BIG GIRL and move aound everywhere.....i think its fair enough to b childish and immature in daily life unless and until you are taking your life's decisions with complete maturity..and thts wht she does!!!

we tell her to become SMART...but do you know her basic philosophy "ACCEPT THE THINGS AS THEY ARE SO YOU WILL FIND LESS DIFFICULTY TO DEAL WITH THEM"
accepting does not necesserily mean jus bear the way things are...it means accpet the fact and adapt yourself to achieve the results rather than cribbing on Y HELL SITUATION IS LIKE THAT....
isn't it s matured thinking.....surpised..yesss this is wht vaidehi thinks and acts and so can maintain totally different personalities as HER FRIENDS.

as i said many of us turn 2 her when we are in problem or WE WANT TO TALK...but think how many times you have been d ear when SHE wanted to talk...rather do we really understand that VAIDEHI wants to say sumthing...i bet hardly pple will understand or realize tht she is hurted or wanna express sum sorrow or the thing which is bothering to her...she is very reserved...though very out going and happy go lucky she is reserved when it comes to disscussing her problems, or things that are bothering to her...she hardly gets open to nebudy

if i ask whts her weakest point....what you will answer?

for me her weakest point is FRIENDSHIP and FRIENDS....se is insecure about her friendship with people, is afraid of loosing her most cherished and valuable thing in life and thts her FRIENDS. and just because of that insecurity she goes out of way for them at times.

this wht i think vaidehi is......
you be the way ur....no matter wht others say

returning after a year

2008-03-06T05:27:00.000-08:00

ohhhhhhhh my god its almost year i hav visited my blog only....;-)
actually m nt writer so really can't post nething or WRITE about my views....
jo dil mein woh juban pe is what my attitude. speak out the heart...so hardly remains in mind to write about.........stillll rt now i felt like less write something.....so writing whatever i felt.....
my poor blog....

Growing up

2007-04-23T23:56:00.000-07:00

'you hav grown up' wht does this mean..????
growing old is a 'label'????? is it a permission or a restriction....????
permission to do wht u want...??? does it really gives you...??? or increases d restrictons on you..???? giv a thought...
after 'growing up' how many times hav we really behaved in a way we want...????
how many times played in mud...during rain...
how many times eaten a pencil....
how many times njoyed playing in garden....
how many times made a noise in a public place
really njoyed eating 'pepsicola'.....
if ever we hav done so wer we equally comfortable while behaving so.....????
these things seem very childish.....pple may say wht is this we hav better definitions of enjoyment....agree..but there are many things we hav done during our childhood days....even now we can do then but since we hav 'grown up' we dun do them might be wid d fear tht wht others will say..???
during childhood days do we had this fear....????
this wht my point is growing old gives u a sense of others, first think abt wht others will say then behave...no matter u want to njoy d event think of others....
who these others are...????? pple in socity, around u, 4 whom u r unknown, they r also unknown to you, but still u hav to care abt them......isn't it strange...???? sumthing unusual....to do the things frm which u will get pleasure u need to think of pple who r unknown to you.....
its beacuse u hav 'GROWN UP'

Manasa.....

2007-04-11T02:48:00.000-07:00

Wellll....after a looooooooooong period m posting sumthig NEW.Nothing new had happened to post or write in soooooo many days....all routine work....
Bt in this routine work i got a new book to read. "Manasa" by Va.Pu.Kale
one of well known writers in Marathi literature. Amazing short story writer, excellent speaker, good dramatist wht else should i say about him.

Manasa, as name suggest is a book tht talks about different individuals, personality that Va.Pu had come across, hav met, talked and most importnantly liked or disliked. It includes all type of people from officers to peon, doctors to lawyers, musicians to dramatist, from well known or prominant personalitites to a layman.It includes different aspects of human personality,traits, behaviour, psychology.its very intersting to read his minute observation and ability to express them in an effective manner.
but again its very different from Pu.La.'s "Vyakti ani Valli" vyakti valli talks about specific personalitites though they r repersentaties of common man, they r specific, they run into their own wolrd, situation or in certain boundries.

this book talk about or focuses on general attitude, tendency and most importantly interaction among individuals, interaction that take place between society and individual.
To get knowledge of human behaviour, attitude it is not necessary to hav a degree of Psychology. You just need to hav a vision and hobby to observe people. To say this in his own words,
" Pustakanpeksha manasa vachali tar dnyan hota. Pustak mahiti puravatat. chalatibolati manasa mahiti peksha hi khup kahi detat. Tyasathi manasa vachanyacha course ghyayacha nahi. Course mhatala ki abhyas aala, degree, college, university he sagalech aala. Tenva manasa vachanyacha chand ghyayala hava ani tyasathi jivanavar bharpur prem hava. Manasa vachayachi ekamev fee hich,"jaganyavr prem"

Time.....

2007-03-18T02:40:00.000-07:00

TIME--- the only forever existing thing....it was there, it is there and it will be there...
Most Powerfulll over all the others.....
Its time decides wether u r powerfull or u r weak.....U r d same across all d situation bt d things r different...they turn out differently at different moments because ultimately it is the time that plays role....

I remeber a story frm the periods of Mahabharata,
Lord Krishna was wounded n his gr8 n loving follower Arjuna went to him. In between he happened to meet Naradmuni. Naradmuni told Arjuna not to touch Krishna by any chance, it will be dangerous for him. He listened that n went to see Krishna. When Krishna saw him he said," I was waiting for u. Come and sit besides me." Arjun got confused neither he could say no to Krishna nor he could ignore Naradmuni's advice. Bt still he humbly rejected to sit near Krishna. Krishna respected his feelings n just asked to touch his wound with his arch if not by hand.Arjun agrees on that. After that he left during tht period Arjun was given responsibility to protect 'Gopikas' who had come to see Krishna. While returning some tribals happened to attack n tried to kidnap those 'gopikas' Arjun tried to protect them bt he just cant use his arch. His skillful archery seemed to fail he could not protect those gopikas. The great archer of the time could not protect gopikas from being kidnapped by tribals.
How come??? how did this happen???? The Arjun was the same, his skill was the same bt then tooo he could not use n influence his archery.
Because it was the TIME.....it was said thet when arjun touched Krishna's wound with his arch that time only the power of the arch was taken out n tht had bcum 'powerless' so Arjun couldnot use his Skill to protect the gopikas.
Kabir described this,
"Manushya bali hot nahi- samay hot balvan
Bhillan luti gopika- wohi arjun wohi baan"

Rang Sukhache

2007-03-18T02:04:00.000-07:00

"Rang Sukhache" by Dr.Rama Marathe...
One of interesting books i hv came across...a must read book....
kay aahe ya pustakat...???? sukhachi definition???? sukh kase milavave yache soppe marg???? fukatchi "philosophy"???? mulich nahi...yatala pustakat kahich nahi...
The most interesting n important theme i found in this book is "unconditional acceptence" be it an individual or a situation...accept d way it is n move on in the life....
Life is like a ray...apparently v can see only 1 colour of life "White" bt wen tht ray passes through d prism it comes out with wonderful colours.....sameway u use prism to view ur life.....u will find d astonishing colours of life some r dark some r bright, sum r frightening sum r lightening...view ur life through psych-prism ;-)
Because its ultimately u who decied wht is happiness fr u!!!!!!

My 1st Post!!!!!

2007-03-17T11:21:00.000-07:00

Well.....my 1st post!!! surprised..??? 1st because here is sumthing new n ORIGINAL m writing after d creation of this blog......in short i came 2 knw n understood 4 wht d blog is....( finally) so...this is a small attempt to write.....or post sumthin of my own.....till d moment there ws a collection of jus poems ( sum weird or BHAYANAK ) bt now as i have understood (?????) d use of blog so now u will find equally bhayanak comments from me;-)jus kiddin...My ORIGINAL posts will b there.....
so here i go........with all together new avatar.....New name,new template n hopefully new contents ;-)

Basically i consider this blog n all is kinda similar to wht we call diary writing n i dunt like diary writin at allllll.....noways....being a psychologist i definitely suggest pple 2 write wht they feel, it helps them in lettin out their feelings, emotions blah blah...bt personally i believe on Cathersis i.e talking to sumbody lettin ur feeling out wid conversation......nt necessarily active conversation bt jus a personal presence of others make u feel comfortable n secure....which doesnt happen in diary writin or perse writing so till d moment m nt convienced wid idea of writin wht u feel n all....2 way communication is effective present stimulus get response......

Ohhh...i hv written so much....cooool....waise being an arts student writin is nt new bt thinkin n writin is definitely a skilled job ;-)...coz no rattofication is possible :( Nevertheless, if i cnt write d option of poems is still open.....;-)

Jarashi vegali vaat.....

2007-03-17T11:17:00.000-07:00

सिगरेटचा जेव्हा तुम्ही, मजेत घेता मस्त झुरका,
आवडलेल्या आमटीचा, आवाज करीत मारता भुरका,
विश्वास ठेवा यात काही पाप नाही,आनंदाने जगायचं नाकारणं, याच्यासारखा आणि दुसरा शाप नाही !

जबरदस्त डुलकी येते, धर्मग्रंथ वाचता वाचता,
लहान बाळासारखे तुम्ही, खुर्चीतच पेंगू लागता,
विश्वास ठेवा यात काही पाप नाही,आनंदाने जगायचं नाकारणं, याच्यासारखा आणि दुसरा शाप नाही !

देवळापुढील रांग टाळून, तुम्ही वेगळी वाट धरता,
गरम कांदाभजी खाऊन, पोटोबाची पूजा करता,
विश्वास ठेवा यात काही पाप नाही,आनंदाने जगायचं नाकारणं, याच्यासारखा आणि दुसरा शाप नाही !

प्रेमाची हाक येते, तुम्ही धुंद साद देता,
कवितेच्या ओळी ऐकून, मनापासून दाद देता,
विश्वास ठेवा यात काही पाप नाही,आनंदाने जगायचं नाकारणं, याच्यासारखा आणि दुसरा शाप नाही !

y we need to bound by d "idealistic" rules of society.....kadhitari svatahcya manasarkha thodasa char lokanpeksha vegala rather viruddha jagava.....majja karavi....aayushyachya rastyavar gadi kadhi wrong side ne chalavavi, no parking zone madhe "muddam" park karavi tyatun milnari majja, anand tyanach kalto je asa vagatat....nehemich nakasamorun chalanaryana kasa kalnar ki ajubajuchya foothpath var kiti majja asate......gadi jenva ghatatun turns sghet jate tenva khari pravaschi majja, tenvhach aapan jasta alert rahato.....nahitar lambach lamb saral rasta eksuri banun jato....bagahva tar vaat kiti saral ani soppi pan tevdhich eksuri......

Time for Self......

2007-03-17T11:13:00.000-07:00

आयुष्याच्या अल्बममध्येआठवणींचे फ़ोटो असतात
आणखी एक कॉपी काढायलानिगेटिव्ह्ज मात्र शिल्लक नसतात

गजर तर रोजचाच आळसाने झोपले पाहिजे,
गोडसर चहाचा घोट घेत Tom n Jerry पाहिल पाहिजे.

आन्घोळ फ़क्त 10 मिनीटे? एखाद्या दिवशी 1 तास द्या,
आरश्यासमोर स्वतःला सुन्दर म्हणता आल पाहिजे.

भसाडा का असेना आपाल्याच सुरात रमल पाहिजे,
वेडेवाकडे अन्ग हलवत नाचणसुध्धा जमल पाहिजे.

गीतेच रस्ता योग्यच आहेपण एखादा दिवस पाडगावकराना द्या,
रामायण मालिका नैतिक थोर BayWatch सुध्धा enjoy करता आली पाहिजे.

कधीतरी एकटे उगाचच फ़िरले पाहिजे,
तलावाच्या काठावर उताणे पडले पाहिजे.

सन्ध्याकाळी मन्दिराबरोबरच बागेत फ़िरल पाहिजे'
फ़ुलपाखरान्च्या' सौन्दर्याला कधीतरी भुलल पाहिजे.

द्यायला कोनी नसल म्हणुन काय झाल?
एक गजरा विकत घ्या ओन्जळभरुन फ़ुलान्चा नुसता श्वास घ्या.

रात्री झोपताना मात्रदोन मिनीटे देवाला द्या,
एवढ्या सुन्दर जगण्यासाठी Thanks नुसत म्हणा

Give time to urself......best option to reduce stress, tension
give it a thought fr how many times nowdays u hav really "spend" time on things which u "want", "like" to do......want is nt in terms of education or career in terms of ur hobbies, things tht gv u unconditional pleasure, happiness.....
U r nt fr d life, life is fr U......make it interestin, happy....
Take out time for urself u will find enough time fr doing ur regular or routine things.....

Jamavun Bagh.....

2007-03-17T11:12:00.000-07:00

My all time favourite poem.....

2007-03-17T11:10:00.000-07:00