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माझा फोटो
Mumbai, Maharashtra, India
मी.... मी आहे हा असा आहे, पटले तर घ्या नाहीतर सोडून द्या... अगदी एखाद्या कवीतेसारखा, आवडली तर ऐका नहितर नीघून जा... कुणालही सांगणार नाही,जबरद्स्ती तर मुळीच नाही, समजले पटले तर करा नाहीतर विसरून जा... तुम्ही जगताय ते योग्य अन् मझ जगण अयोग्य, जरा असही जगून बघा निश्फळ वाटल तर नावं ठेवा... तुमच्या आध्यात ना मध्यात ना मझा कुणाला त्रास, कशाला उगीच वैतागताय कशाला उगीच सन्ताप्ताय... करावस वाटलं तर एकच् करा मी जगतोय तस मला जगू द्या... का नवं ठेवता उगाच मी करतोय ते मला करु द्या... म्हणूनच म्हणतो.. मी आहे हा असा आहे, पटले तर घ्या नाहीतर सोडून द्या

रविवार, २८ सप्टेंबर, २००८

Emotions..........

once again after a loooooooooooooooooooong commercial break m back on my blog........

lott many things hapend,lott yet to happen.....but one thread is common throughout all these HAPPENING THINGS n thts EMOTIONS.........(my psychology is playing role now)

being a pustaki kida (nt abhyasu haan) i read relatively lott books n coincidently the books which have beend read recently all belong to a similar category n thts THE POWER OF ME or SELF EMPOWERMENT..... books like Secret, Unlimited Power etc... but one book that interest me lott is Emotional Welness by OSHO...( i knw OSHO sounds very very spiritual........) but ultimately the emotions, attitude, personality, point of view....all r name of one common thing n tht thing lies with in oneself........every books startes n ends with a notion that WETHER YOU SAY YOU CAN DO IT OR SAY YOU CAN'T DO IT, YOU ARE ALWAYS RIGHT....

Emotions.....the most imp thing of life.....this is the only thing that makes Human Beings different from other animals... generally in the field of pyshology this topic has been disscussed many a times with diferent pespective n angles...but i found some new definition of emotion in this book...below is the part of the whole...

Emotions can't be permenant.That's why they are called "EMOTIONS"-the word comes from "motion", movement. They move; hence they are emotions. From one to another you continually change.this moment you are sad, this moment you are angry, this moment you are happy. And this goes on.This can't be your nature, because behind all these changes something is needled like a thread that holds all of them together.

बुधवार, ११ जून, २००८

Personality Analysis by Intelligent Mental

hey.............again after a looooong time kida for writing the blog bite me.....
i jus get bore of publishing my thoughts in writing ( haan abhi if i get ne writer then...it will b a different matter ;-) i would hav published volumes of my gr8 gyan and wuld hav enlightened people :O)newyas rt now thts nt a purpose of this post so...cuming to the point. Finally after spending 7 yrs in d field like psychology now i am a PROFESSIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST (sounds sumthing gr88 na!!! its just i am throuh with my MA exams)
now during these yrs specially during post grad yrs one thing i was constantly being asked by common man and that was Personality.Humans are so obsessed and curious about themselves in order to know WHO AM I? HOW AM I? ( the ancient question ko aham? the root of the existence or living on this planet)

who will be better than us (psychologists) to answer this question? Psychology is a Science of Bewhaviour....and the major part, that influences one's behaviour is PRESONALITY (or its other way round???? ;-)
with different theories, tests we defined and categorised personality in different types, traits and so on.......its all theoratical but in practical or in daily life consciously or unconsciously we do categorise people in different types aren't we? without the bases of theories, researches we come to the conclusion about how an individual is. and most of the time we stick like glue 2 our conception.

its my personal experience that whatever understanding i hav about my friends is generally different form what others think about them as they are so on the demand of some of my friends here are some analysis or my observation about them for HOW THEY ARE.....

my social circle is wide..it consists of kid of 5 yrs till the 60 yr old uncle.......these are the people i came across from time to time during my major life events.....one of them is Vaidehi....

a gal from my Reliance Summer Trainee Group...very innocent and at times little dumb....in our group she is a full time target of our pranks, all time favourite member to pull the leg...for others she is childish, really dunt understand the 'REAL MEANINGS' of anybody's sayings, immatured, hardly gets angry and most IMPORTANTLY a RELIABLE STRESS BUSTER or a PUNCH BAG...u r angry go to her, talk wid her or even go n yell at her remove your frustration..she is there always...its like konihi yave tapli marun jave......
people ask to change her this way...."plz improve vaidehi".....
but all these opinions are different than what i understand about her
point no 1- m fully agree with d fact that she is childish...her childishness reflects form her bahaviour...but tell me frankly aren't we like her that behaviour...isn't it her that behaviour makes us to enjoy her company? she knows it and thus behaves tht way cz 'SHE LIKES TO DO THINGS THAT MAKES OTHERS HAPPY IF ITS NOT REALLY COSTING MUCH'and typically in her language 'IF ITS NOT A BIG DEAL'

similarly, other point is about her IMMATURITY- hi mulgi kadhi mothi honar????? every budy asks this question...but i think she is highly matured.....and the maturity reflects in her decisions...is it necessary to WEAR A MASK OF BIG GIRL and move aound everywhere.....i think its fair enough to b childish and immature in daily life unless and until you are taking your life's decisions with complete maturity..and thts wht she does!!!

we tell her to become SMART...but do you know her basic philosophy "ACCEPT THE THINGS AS THEY ARE SO YOU WILL FIND LESS DIFFICULTY TO DEAL WITH THEM"
accepting does not necesserily mean jus bear the way things are...it means accpet the fact and adapt yourself to achieve the results rather than cribbing on Y HELL SITUATION IS LIKE THAT....
isn't it s matured thinking.....surpised..yesss this is wht vaidehi thinks and acts and so can maintain totally different personalities as HER FRIENDS.

as i said many of us turn 2 her when we are in problem or WE WANT TO TALK...but think how many times you have been d ear when SHE wanted to talk...rather do we really understand that VAIDEHI wants to say sumthing...i bet hardly pple will understand or realize tht she is hurted or wanna express sum sorrow or the thing which is bothering to her...she is very reserved...though very out going and happy go lucky she is reserved when it comes to disscussing her problems, or things that are bothering to her...she hardly gets open to nebudy

if i ask whts her weakest point....what you will answer?




for me her weakest point is FRIENDSHIP and FRIENDS....se is insecure about her friendship with people, is afraid of loosing her most cherished and valuable thing in life and thts her FRIENDS. and just because of that insecurity she goes out of way for them at times.



this wht i think vaidehi is......
you be the way ur....no matter wht others say

गुरुवार, ६ मार्च, २००८

returning after a year

ohhhhhhhh my god its almost year i hav visited my blog only....;-)
actually m nt writer so really can't post nething or WRITE about my views....
jo dil mein woh juban pe is what my attitude. speak out the heart...so hardly remains in mind to write about.........stillll rt now i felt like less write something.....so writing whatever i felt.....
my poor blog....

सोमवार, २३ एप्रिल, २००७

Growing up

'you hav grown up' wht does this mean..????
growing old is a 'label'????? is it a permission or a restriction....????
permission to do wht u want...??? does it really gives you...??? or increases d restrictons on you..???? giv a thought...
after 'growing up' how many times hav we really behaved in a way we want...????
how many times played in mud...during rain...
how many times eaten a pencil....
how many times njoyed playing in garden....
how many times made a noise in a public place
really njoyed eating 'pepsicola'.....
if ever we hav done so wer we equally comfortable while behaving so.....????
these things seem very childish.....pple may say wht is this we hav better definitions of enjoyment....agree..but there are many things we hav done during our childhood days....even now we can do then but since we hav 'grown up' we dun do them might be wid d fear tht wht others will say..???
during childhood days do we had this fear....????
this wht my point is growing old gives u a sense of others, first think abt wht others will say then behave...no matter u want to njoy d event think of others....
who these others are...????? pple in socity, around u, 4 whom u r unknown, they r also unknown to you, but still u hav to care abt them......isn't it strange...???? sumthing unusual....to do the things frm which u will get pleasure u need to think of pple who r unknown to you.....
its beacuse u hav 'GROWN UP'

बुधवार, ११ एप्रिल, २००७

Manasa.....



Wellll....after a looooooooooong period m posting sumthig NEW.Nothing new had happened to post or write in soooooo many days....all routine work....
Bt in this routine work i got a new book to read. "Manasa" by Va.Pu.Kale
one of well known writers in Marathi literature. Amazing short story writer, excellent speaker, good dramatist wht else should i say about him.

Manasa, as name suggest is a book tht talks about different individuals, personality that Va.Pu had come across, hav met, talked and most importnantly liked or disliked. It includes all type of people from officers to peon, doctors to lawyers, musicians to dramatist, from well known or prominant personalitites to a layman.It includes different aspects of human personality,traits, behaviour, psychology.its very intersting to read his minute observation and ability to express them in an effective manner.
but again its very different from Pu.La.'s "Vyakti ani Valli" vyakti valli talks about specific personalitites though they r repersentaties of common man, they r specific, they run into their own wolrd, situation or in certain boundries.

this book talk about or focuses on general attitude, tendency and most importantly interaction among individuals, interaction that take place between society and individual.
To get knowledge of human behaviour, attitude it is not necessary to hav a degree of Psychology. You just need to hav a vision and hobby to observe people. To say this in his own words,
" Pustakanpeksha manasa vachali tar dnyan hota. Pustak mahiti puravatat. chalatibolati manasa mahiti peksha hi khup kahi detat. Tyasathi manasa vachanyacha course ghyayacha nahi. Course mhatala ki abhyas aala, degree, college, university he sagalech aala. Tenva manasa vachanyacha chand ghyayala hava ani tyasathi jivanavar bharpur prem hava. Manasa vachayachi ekamev fee hich,"jaganyavr prem"

रविवार, १८ मार्च, २००७

Time.....



TIME--- the only forever existing thing....it was there, it is there and it will be there...
Most Powerfulll over all the others.....
Its time decides wether u r powerfull or u r weak.....U r d same across all d situation bt d things r different...they turn out differently at different moments because ultimately it is the time that plays role....

I remeber a story frm the periods of Mahabharata,
Lord Krishna was wounded n his gr8 n loving follower Arjuna went to him. In between he happened to meet Naradmuni. Naradmuni told Arjuna not to touch Krishna by any chance, it will be dangerous for him. He listened that n went to see Krishna. When Krishna saw him he said," I was waiting for u. Come and sit besides me." Arjun got confused neither he could say no to Krishna nor he could ignore Naradmuni's advice. Bt still he humbly rejected to sit near Krishna. Krishna respected his feelings n just asked to touch his wound with his arch if not by hand.Arjun agrees on that. After that he left during tht period Arjun was given responsibility to protect 'Gopikas' who had come to see Krishna. While returning some tribals happened to attack n tried to kidnap those 'gopikas' Arjun tried to protect them bt he just cant use his arch. His skillful archery seemed to fail he could not protect those gopikas. The great archer of the time could not protect gopikas from being kidnapped by tribals.
How come??? how did this happen???? The Arjun was the same, his skill was the same bt then tooo he could not use n influence his archery.
Because it was the TIME.....it was said thet when arjun touched Krishna's wound with his arch that time only the power of the arch was taken out n tht had bcum 'powerless' so Arjun couldnot use his Skill to protect the gopikas.
Kabir described this,
"Manushya bali hot nahi- samay hot balvan
Bhillan luti gopika- wohi arjun wohi baan"

Rang Sukhache

"Rang Sukhache" by Dr.Rama Marathe...
One of interesting books i hv came across...a must read book....
kay aahe ya pustakat...???? sukhachi definition???? sukh kase milavave yache soppe marg???? fukatchi "philosophy"???? mulich nahi...yatala pustakat kahich nahi...
The most interesting n important theme i found in this book is "unconditional acceptence" be it an individual or a situation...accept d way it is n move on in the life....
Life is like a ray...apparently v can see only 1 colour of life "White" bt wen tht ray passes through d prism it comes out with wonderful colours.....sameway u use prism to view ur life.....u will find d astonishing colours of life some r dark some r bright, sum r frightening sum r lightening...view ur life through psych-prism ;-)
Because its ultimately u who decied wht is happiness fr u!!!!!!

शनिवार, १७ मार्च, २००७

My 1st Post!!!!!

Well.....my 1st post!!! surprised..??? 1st because here is sumthing new n ORIGINAL m writing after d creation of this blog......in short i came 2 knw n understood 4 wht d blog is....( finally) so...this is a small attempt to write.....or post sumthin of my own.....till d moment there ws a collection of jus poems ( sum weird or BHAYANAK ) bt now as i have understood (?????) d use of blog so now u will find equally bhayanak comments from me;-)jus kiddin...My ORIGINAL posts will b there.....
so here i go........with all together new avatar.....New name,new template n hopefully new contents ;-)

Basically i consider this blog n all is kinda similar to wht we call diary writing n i dunt like diary writin at allllll.....noways....being a psychologist i definitely suggest pple 2 write wht they feel, it helps them in lettin out their feelings, emotions blah blah...bt personally i believe on Cathersis i.e talking to sumbody lettin ur feeling out wid conversation......nt necessarily active conversation bt jus a personal presence of others make u feel comfortable n secure....which doesnt happen in diary writin or perse writing so till d moment m nt convienced wid idea of writin wht u feel n all....2 way communication is effective present stimulus get response......

Ohhh...i hv written so much....cooool....waise being an arts student writin is nt new bt thinkin n writin is definitely a skilled job ;-)...coz no rattofication is possible :( Nevertheless, if i cnt write d option of poems is still open.....;-)

Jarashi vegali vaat.....

सिगरेटचा जेव्हा तुम्ही, मजेत घेता मस्त झुरका,
आवडलेल्या आमटीचा, आवाज करीत मारता भुरका,
विश्वास ठेवा यात काही पाप नाही,आनंदाने जगायचं नाकारणं, याच्यासारखा आणि दुसरा शाप नाही !

जबरदस्त डुलकी येते, धर्मग्रंथ वाचता वाचता,
लहान बाळासारखे तुम्ही, खुर्चीतच पेंगू लागता,
विश्वास ठेवा यात काही पाप नाही,आनंदाने जगायचं नाकारणं, याच्यासारखा आणि दुसरा शाप नाही !

देवळापुढील रांग टाळून, तुम्ही वेगळी वाट धरता,
गरम कांदाभजी खाऊन, पोटोबाची पूजा करता,
विश्वास ठेवा यात काही पाप नाही,आनंदाने जगायचं नाकारणं, याच्यासारखा आणि दुसरा शाप नाही !

प्रेमाची हाक येते, तुम्ही धुंद साद देता,
कवितेच्या ओळी ऐकून, मनापासून दाद देता,
विश्वास ठेवा यात काही पाप नाही,आनंदाने जगायचं नाकारणं, याच्यासारखा आणि दुसरा शाप नाही !

y we need to bound by d "idealistic" rules of society.....kadhitari svatahcya manasarkha thodasa char lokanpeksha vegala rather viruddha jagava.....majja karavi....aayushyachya rastyavar gadi kadhi wrong side ne chalavavi, no parking zone madhe "muddam" park karavi tyatun milnari majja, anand tyanach kalto je asa vagatat....nehemich nakasamorun chalanaryana kasa kalnar ki ajubajuchya foothpath var kiti majja asate......gadi jenva ghatatun turns sghet jate tenva khari pravaschi majja, tenvhach aapan jasta alert rahato.....nahitar lambach lamb saral rasta eksuri banun jato....bagahva tar vaat kiti saral ani soppi pan tevdhich eksuri......

Time for Self......

आयुष्याच्या अल्बममध्येआठवणींचे फ़ोटो असतात
आणखी एक कॉपी काढायलानिगेटिव्ह्ज मात्र शिल्लक नसतात

गजर तर रोजचाच आळसाने झोपले पाहिजे,
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आन्घोळ फ़क्त 10 मिनीटे? एखाद्या दिवशी 1 तास द्या,
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वेडेवाकडे अन्ग हलवत नाचणसुध्धा जमल पाहिजे.

गीतेच रस्ता योग्यच आहेपण एखादा दिवस पाडगावकराना द्या,
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तलावाच्या काठावर उताणे पडले पाहिजे.

सन्ध्याकाळी मन्दिराबरोबरच बागेत फ़िरल पाहिजे'
फ़ुलपाखरान्च्या' सौन्दर्याला कधीतरी भुलल पाहिजे.

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एवढ्या सुन्दर जगण्यासाठी Thanks नुसत म्हणा

Give time to urself......best option to reduce stress, tension
give it a thought fr how many times nowdays u hav really "spend" time on things which u "want", "like" to do......want is nt in terms of education or career in terms of ur hobbies, things tht gv u unconditional pleasure, happiness.....
U r nt fr d life, life is fr U......make it interestin, happy....
Take out time for urself u will find enough time fr doing ur regular or routine things.....

Jamavun Bagh.....

My all time favourite poem.....