hey.............again after a looooong time kida for writing the blog bite me.....
i jus get bore of publishing my thoughts in writing ( haan abhi if i get ne writer then...it will b a different matter ;-) i would hav published volumes of my gr8 gyan and wuld hav enlightened people :O)newyas rt now thts nt a purpose of this post so...cuming to the point. Finally after spending 7 yrs in d field like psychology now i am a PROFESSIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST (sounds sumthing gr88 na!!! its just i am throuh with my MA exams)
now during these yrs specially during post grad yrs one thing i was constantly being asked by common man and that was Personality.Humans are so obsessed and curious about themselves in order to know WHO AM I? HOW AM I? ( the ancient question ko aham? the root of the existence or living on this planet)
who will be better than us (psychologists) to answer this question? Psychology is a Science of Bewhaviour....and the major part, that influences one's behaviour is PRESONALITY (or its other way round???? ;-)
with different theories, tests we defined and categorised personality in different types, traits and so on.......its all theoratical but in practical or in daily life consciously or unconsciously we do categorise people in different types aren't we? without the bases of theories, researches we come to the conclusion about how an individual is. and most of the time we stick like glue 2 our conception.
its my personal experience that whatever understanding i hav about my friends is generally different form what others think about them as they are so on the demand of some of my friends here are some analysis or my observation about them for HOW THEY ARE.....
my social circle is wide..it consists of kid of 5 yrs till the 60 yr old uncle.......these are the people i came across from time to time during my major life events.....one of them is Vaidehi....
a gal from my Reliance Summer Trainee Group...very innocent and at times little dumb....in our group she is a full time target of our pranks, all time favourite member to pull the leg...for others she is childish, really dunt understand the 'REAL MEANINGS' of anybody's sayings, immatured, hardly gets angry and most IMPORTANTLY a RELIABLE STRESS BUSTER or a PUNCH BAG...u r angry go to her, talk wid her or even go n yell at her remove your frustration..she is there always...its like konihi yave tapli marun jave......
people ask to change her this way...."plz improve vaidehi".....
but all these opinions are different than what i understand about her
point no 1- m fully agree with d fact that she is childish...her childishness reflects form her bahaviour...but tell me frankly aren't we like her that behaviour...isn't it her that behaviour makes us to enjoy her company? she knows it and thus behaves tht way cz 'SHE LIKES TO DO THINGS THAT MAKES OTHERS HAPPY IF ITS NOT REALLY COSTING MUCH'and typically in her language 'IF ITS NOT A BIG DEAL'
similarly, other point is about her IMMATURITY- hi mulgi kadhi mothi honar????? every budy asks this question...but i think she is highly matured.....and the maturity reflects in her decisions...is it necessary to WEAR A MASK OF BIG GIRL and move aound everywhere.....i think its fair enough to b childish and immature in daily life unless and until you are taking your life's decisions with complete maturity..and thts wht she does!!!
we tell her to become SMART...but do you know her basic philosophy "ACCEPT THE THINGS AS THEY ARE SO YOU WILL FIND LESS DIFFICULTY TO DEAL WITH THEM"
accepting does not necesserily mean jus bear the way things are...it means accpet the fact and adapt yourself to achieve the results rather than cribbing on Y HELL SITUATION IS LIKE THAT....
isn't it s matured thinking.....surpised..yesss this is wht vaidehi thinks and acts and so can maintain totally different personalities as HER FRIENDS.
as i said many of us turn 2 her when we are in problem or WE WANT TO TALK...but think how many times you have been d ear when SHE wanted to talk...rather do we really understand that VAIDEHI wants to say sumthing...i bet hardly pple will understand or realize tht she is hurted or wanna express sum sorrow or the thing which is bothering to her...she is very reserved...though very out going and happy go lucky she is reserved when it comes to disscussing her problems, or things that are bothering to her...she hardly gets open to nebudy
if i ask whts her weakest point....what you will answer?
for me her weakest point is FRIENDSHIP and FRIENDS....se is insecure about her friendship with people, is afraid of loosing her most cherished and valuable thing in life and thts her FRIENDS. and just because of that insecurity she goes out of way for them at times.
this wht i think vaidehi is......
you be the way ur....no matter wht others say
Mi...
- Shraddha
- Mumbai, Maharashtra, India
- मी.... मी आहे हा असा आहे, पटले तर घ्या नाहीतर सोडून द्या... अगदी एखाद्या कवीतेसारखा, आवडली तर ऐका नहितर नीघून जा... कुणालही सांगणार नाही,जबरद्स्ती तर मुळीच नाही, समजले पटले तर करा नाहीतर विसरून जा... तुम्ही जगताय ते योग्य अन् मझ जगण अयोग्य, जरा असही जगून बघा निश्फळ वाटल तर नावं ठेवा... तुमच्या आध्यात ना मध्यात ना मझा कुणाला त्रास, कशाला उगीच वैतागताय कशाला उगीच सन्ताप्ताय... करावस वाटलं तर एकच् करा मी जगतोय तस मला जगू द्या... का नवं ठेवता उगाच मी करतोय ते मला करु द्या... म्हणूनच म्हणतो.. मी आहे हा असा आहे, पटले तर घ्या नाहीतर सोडून द्या
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