A first step

Our team has been busy, busy as usual - but one of us has been especially busy. Sia, our 11-month old, has been really focusing on her walking! She will be 1 in a few weeks (where has the last year gone?) and she decided about 6 weeks ago that walking looked like something she wanted to figure out! This is my 4th walker and so I've not been rushing her, but I have been intently watching the process.
She's wobbly. She falls a lot. She sometimes needs a hand to hold, sometimes just a pinkie or finger for confidence. She prefers to walk towards someone who is reaching out their arms for her. She's bumped and scraped from obstacles. When she hits her head (or any other body part) it doesn't seem to hurt as much as normal because she's so focused on her destination. But, most importantly, she keeps getting up and trying again.
Things I've noticed about those of us around her. We clap when she takes steps (even if it's just one or two). We reach out to help her up when she topples. We praise her and cheer for her (yes, even if she falls flat). We hold our arms out for her so she knows where she can fall safely. We tell everyone about her successes. We dwell on the steps, not the tumbles. And most importantly, we encourage her to get up and try again.
Not ONCE have I heard anyone say, "well, you've fallen - this walking stuff might not be for you. You should stick to crawling."
"I know someone that tried that and still can't walk, just save yourself the trouble."
"Wow, that sure is taking you a long time to figure out. Your sister walked a lot faster than you did."
"You know you're not supposed to walk yet. This is too early. Sit back down and let us carry you for awhile."
"Why would you want to bother with that when you're already so good at crawling?"
"Don't, Don't, Don't - you know you always fall when you do that!"

Interesting, isn't it?? There are SO MANY parallels in this lesson that I hardly know where to begin! do we finad such encouragement around us???? our family? our friends? or even at our job????
everywhere you tary to do new things, try to set up new procedured, new rule.....or newthig that is new....how far n how quickly we get encouraged????
with every attempt when we fall...we get to listen "see...i had told you!!!!!", "this is our experience.....bt no you dunt want to listen us"

do we really encourage others around us like this, do we really try to see the world from theirs perspective???? how many times we really allow to be them the way they are......
how many times we show the Unconditional Acceptence...total trust and a belief that yessss there is sumbudy fr me reaching out their arms and cheering me with my every move towards them.......

बुध्दीबळ

जॉब म्हटला की अधिकार आणि कर्तवया आलिच.....जेव्ध जास्ता अधिकार तेवढी जास्ता कर्तव्य....्ए तर रूढ समीकरण अहे...पन आज काळ आजुन एक गोष्टा मोठा फरक करते ती म्हनजे.....VआY..आघे, ड्यू तो प्रोफेशनल कोर्सस फार लहान वयात हातात मोठ्या जागा येतात न अधिकार येतात, क.Cलेज मधली थियरी प्रॅक्टिकल मधे अप्लाइ करायची ईडेआळ स्वप्ना असतात, डोळ्यावर कै निरालाच चस्मा असतो..... सुरवाअट चांगाली होते....खुप काम करायची इच्छा असते, त्याचा मोबदला म्हणून पैसे नई बीटी कौतुकाचे 4 शब्द हवे अस्तत.....ऽनि तिथे सुरू होतो एक जीवघेणा प्रकर.....ॅअल्लेद अस 'CओRPओRआटे PओळीटीCश' नवीन पयाडी, जुना पत..ंउर्लेले वजीर आणि त्याना असलेली राजा ला नाचवण्यहसी हौस....... यात बिचारी पयाडी कधी दुसर्‍याच्या वजीरासमोर येऊन उभी ताकतात हे त्यांचा त्याना काळात नई...... पयडिनी विचार करायचाच नसतो......त्यनि फक्त मारायचा वा मरयच.....प्यदि, वजीर सगळा firavnara कोणी तिसरच असतो......ं तो कोण हे कधीच काळात नै.....य सगळ्या प्यडना हलवणारा माणूस कोट्या का लायकी चा असेन.......तो फिरवत असतो न पयाडी फिरत अस्तत....दुसर काही करूच शकत नैत...करन त्याना शेवटी पाटावर राहणा महत्वाचा असत...ंअनत कुठेतरी जिद्द asate...vajirachya जागेवर पोहोच्न्यचि.....पन हाय रे त्याना काय माहिती असता शेवटी वजीर पण कोणाच्या तरी हातातले पयाडेच आहे....फक्त नाव वेगळा, थोडे फार अधिकार कमी जास्ता पण शेवटी ते सुद्धा एक प्रकारच प्यदच.......ं त्याना firavnara सुद्धा एक बिनलायकी चा मनुस...ज्यल फक्त काही वेळसाठी विरंगुळा हवा असतो....तो पॅट उघ्दतो.....कलि-पांढरी लुटूपुतिच्छी लढाई लावून देतो......प्यदि लढतात ती लढाई खरी सम्जुन..ऽनि माधेच कंटाळा आल्यासारखा पॅट बंद करून तो माणूस निघून जतो.....त्यच्यसथि पॅट बंद ज़ॅलेला अस्तो...पन त्या पयाडांचा काय???? जी या पटला आपला सर्वस्वा मन्तत......त्यनि घेतलेल्या प्रयत्नांचा काय? त्याच्या जिद्दीचा काय? त्याच्या स्वप्नांचा काय???? हा विचार फक्त पयाडी च कर्तत....पन ती हे विसरलेली असतात की त्याना VईछाR खाRआYछा आडःईखाR णाशाटो......ऽसतो तो फक्त कोणीतरी मांडलेला पॅट आणि त्यावर त्याना firavnara बिनलायकीचा माणूस....... बुद्धिबलाच्या खेळातून कधी असाही काही शिकायला मिळेल असा वाटला न्हव्ता.......

Emotions..........

once again after a loooooooooooooooooooong commercial break m back on my blog........

lott many things hapend,lott yet to happen.....but one thread is common throughout all these HAPPENING THINGS n thts EMOTIONS.........(my psychology is playing role now)

being a pustaki kida (nt abhyasu haan) i read relatively lott books n coincidently the books which have beend read recently all belong to a similar category n thts THE POWER OF ME or SELF EMPOWERMENT..... books like Secret, Unlimited Power etc... but one book that interest me lott is Emotional Welness by OSHO...( i knw OSHO sounds very very spiritual........) but ultimately the emotions, attitude, personality, point of view....all r name of one common thing n tht thing lies with in oneself........every books startes n ends with a notion that WETHER YOU SAY YOU CAN DO IT OR SAY YOU CAN'T DO IT, YOU ARE ALWAYS RIGHT....

Emotions.....the most imp thing of life.....this is the only thing that makes Human Beings different from other animals... generally in the field of pyshology this topic has been disscussed many a times with diferent pespective n angles...but i found some new definition of emotion in this book...below is the part of the whole...

Emotions can't be permenant.That's why they are called "EMOTIONS"-the word comes from "motion", movement. They move; hence they are emotions. From one to another you continually change.this moment you are sad, this moment you are angry, this moment you are happy. And this goes on.This can't be your nature, because behind all these changes something is needled like a thread that holds all of them together.

Personality Analysis by Intelligent Mental

hey.............again after a looooong time kida for writing the blog bite me.....
i jus get bore of publishing my thoughts in writing ( haan abhi if i get ne writer then...it will b a different matter ;-) i would hav published volumes of my gr8 gyan and wuld hav enlightened people :O)newyas rt now thts nt a purpose of this post so...cuming to the point. Finally after spending 7 yrs in d field like psychology now i am a PROFESSIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST (sounds sumthing gr88 na!!! its just i am throuh with my MA exams)
now during these yrs specially during post grad yrs one thing i was constantly being asked by common man and that was Personality.Humans are so obsessed and curious about themselves in order to know WHO AM I? HOW AM I? ( the ancient question ko aham? the root of the existence or living on this planet)

who will be better than us (psychologists) to answer this question? Psychology is a Science of Bewhaviour....and the major part, that influences one's behaviour is PRESONALITY (or its other way round???? ;-)
with different theories, tests we defined and categorised personality in different types, traits and so on.......its all theoratical but in practical or in daily life consciously or unconsciously we do categorise people in different types aren't we? without the bases of theories, researches we come to the conclusion about how an individual is. and most of the time we stick like glue 2 our conception.

its my personal experience that whatever understanding i hav about my friends is generally different form what others think about them as they are so on the demand of some of my friends here are some analysis or my observation about them for HOW THEY ARE.....

my social circle is wide..it consists of kid of 5 yrs till the 60 yr old uncle.......these are the people i came across from time to time during my major life events.....one of them is Vaidehi....

a gal from my Reliance Summer Trainee Group...very innocent and at times little dumb....in our group she is a full time target of our pranks, all time favourite member to pull the leg...for others she is childish, really dunt understand the 'REAL MEANINGS' of anybody's sayings, immatured, hardly gets angry and most IMPORTANTLY a RELIABLE STRESS BUSTER or a PUNCH BAG...u r angry go to her, talk wid her or even go n yell at her remove your frustration..she is there always...its like konihi yave tapli marun jave......
people ask to change her this way...."plz improve vaidehi".....
but all these opinions are different than what i understand about her
point no 1- m fully agree with d fact that she is childish...her childishness reflects form her bahaviour...but tell me frankly aren't we like her that behaviour...isn't it her that behaviour makes us to enjoy her company? she knows it and thus behaves tht way cz 'SHE LIKES TO DO THINGS THAT MAKES OTHERS HAPPY IF ITS NOT REALLY COSTING MUCH'and typically in her language 'IF ITS NOT A BIG DEAL'

similarly, other point is about her IMMATURITY- hi mulgi kadhi mothi honar????? every budy asks this question...but i think she is highly matured.....and the maturity reflects in her decisions...is it necessary to WEAR A MASK OF BIG GIRL and move aound everywhere.....i think its fair enough to b childish and immature in daily life unless and until you are taking your life's decisions with complete maturity..and thts wht she does!!!

we tell her to become SMART...but do you know her basic philosophy "ACCEPT THE THINGS AS THEY ARE SO YOU WILL FIND LESS DIFFICULTY TO DEAL WITH THEM"
accepting does not necesserily mean jus bear the way things are...it means accpet the fact and adapt yourself to achieve the results rather than cribbing on Y HELL SITUATION IS LIKE THAT....
isn't it s matured thinking.....surpised..yesss this is wht vaidehi thinks and acts and so can maintain totally different personalities as HER FRIENDS.

as i said many of us turn 2 her when we are in problem or WE WANT TO TALK...but think how many times you have been d ear when SHE wanted to talk...rather do we really understand that VAIDEHI wants to say sumthing...i bet hardly pple will understand or realize tht she is hurted or wanna express sum sorrow or the thing which is bothering to her...she is very reserved...though very out going and happy go lucky she is reserved when it comes to disscussing her problems, or things that are bothering to her...she hardly gets open to nebudy

if i ask whts her weakest point....what you will answer?




for me her weakest point is FRIENDSHIP and FRIENDS....se is insecure about her friendship with people, is afraid of loosing her most cherished and valuable thing in life and thts her FRIENDS. and just because of that insecurity she goes out of way for them at times.



this wht i think vaidehi is......
you be the way ur....no matter wht others say

returning after a year

ohhhhhhhh my god its almost year i hav visited my blog only....;-)
actually m nt writer so really can't post nething or WRITE about my views....
jo dil mein woh juban pe is what my attitude. speak out the heart...so hardly remains in mind to write about.........stillll rt now i felt like less write something.....so writing whatever i felt.....
my poor blog....